Ididun Ighodal opens up about her struggle to conceive and how she is on a mission to help others

Ibidun and husban Ituah Ighodalo

Ibidun and husband Ituah Ighodalo

Pastor’s wife and former Beauty Queen, Ibudun Ighodalo, is working towards assisting 28 couples to achieve their dream of having children through scientific means.

Ibudun has had struggles with conceiving and has tried different solutions for her problem but all to no avail.

“I had tears in my eyes when I told God, ‘you know what? This is enough. You are going to do it when You want to do it, in Your own time and if You are not going to do it, let it be left undone. This is You. I trust You. Right now, it’s ok, I’m going to live my life. I found out that I had stopped living, because that was all I wanted. I said no, I’m going to be happy, live my life and leave it all to God. I’m grateful to God for my own family, for the family I’m married into.”

The Entrepreneur’s Ibudun Ighodalo Foundation currently grants couples the opportunity to use the Vitro Fertilization (IVF), Frozen Embryo Transfer and Intrauterine Insemination treatment in order for them to be able to conceive. The current plan covers 28 couples as compared to their previous plan to work with two couples.

Ibudun was interviewed by This Day where she told of her journey to motherhood and how she has picked herself up.

“I have heard stories of in-laws calling the woman painful names. Those are hurtful things to say. There are names you don’t want to call a woman that is looking up to God.”

She continued to share her experiences. “People may not want to be mean, but they don’t know that certain statements and body language hurt. When you are waiting on God, you can be sensitive to what people say or do and they might not know it will hurt or hit you. It is good to raise awareness and understanding about childless couples. Friends and relatives should be a bit more sensitive to women or couples who are waiting on the Lord. I know that because of our culture, the pressure is so much. The shoes of women who are waiting on the Lord are not very easy shoes. Emotionally, mentally and psychologically, hormonally, when you are going through treatments, it’s a rollercoaster-you deal with in-laws, society, friends, there’s a lot going on.”

“People who get married and have children don’t know how lucky they are. I mean you are even careful not to get pregnant again, you are so blessed by God, you should thank God every day. It is not easy to find yourself in a situation where your friends are doing school runs, you don’t know what that is, you don’t even know what your first trimester is. The friends you had bridal showers with are having baby showers, it takes the grace of God to remain sane, honestly.”